No Bitterness
On November 30, 2007, I was told of an intriguing article in the local newspaper. I drove to a local store to buy a copy and saw that the article was positioned “above the fold”, that is, at the top of the front page, the space reserved for the most important news of the day. By that, the editor of the newspaper was signaling to his readers that in his judgment, this story was more important for them than any national or international news that day. The article said that a local minister had for years been breaking up marriages, that he had telephoned an innocent woman, out of the blue, to tell her she was evil, and that he was teaching that the only way people could be saved from eternal damnation is if they lived in North Carolina. Significantly, the two principal sources of the information were Christian ministers—reliable sources, certainly. And one of them was even a relative of the heretic minister; so, he surely knew the truth about him. About a week later, another article appeared in the same newspaper, this one penned by another Christian minister, accusing the heretic of teaching that God had no people on earth except the few who participated in the home fellowship he pastored. It was all quite shocking. Why would anyone listen to such a nut?
The most surprising element of the articles, though, was that I personally knew the minister about whom they had been written—it was me! None of the accusations were true, but I learned soon enough that the truth is irrelevant in such situations, for once slander is made public, the slanderer’s purpose has been achieved, which is to kill the influence of the one being talked about. As Winston Churchill noted, “A lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on.”
After the news articles came out, I was cut off by businessmen and others with whom I had enjoyed good relations for years. Some contractors refused to come again to do work on my property. Young people in my congregation were ashamed to show up at school, fearing that their schoolmates had learned of the newspaper stories. Others, young men as well as women, were unceremoniously dumped when those they were dating found out about the articles, and some were ostracized by their peers as belonging to a cult. Anyone associated with me was liable to be in some way abused.
The public humiliation was, to that time, the most hurtful event of my life, but Jesus used it to teach me precious lessons, and I sincerely thank him for it. One truth he taught me was that if we get the gold out of a trial, even a very hard one, we will end up thankful for that trial and will pray for those whom God used to put us through it. My wise Uncle Joe’s testimony from long ago became very real to me. He said, “I will tell you who your friends are.Your friends are whoever God uses to get you closer to Him.” I felt that truth now, deep in my soul. In fact, so much more like Jesus did the experience make me that I told my congregation that God is the One who put those articles about me in the newspaper, and it thrilled me to realize, after some time, that in my heart was no bitterness toward anyone, neither the editor nor the people whose lies he had published. I genuinely felt toward them the way Joseph felt toward his brothers who had cruelly sold him into slavery years before: “Yes,you meant to do evil to me, but God meant it for good” (Gen. 50:20). Joseph was able to make that statement only because he had gotten the gold out of the trial God had put him through.
Rejoice (as Soon as You Can)
Another lesson I learned is that Jesus never exaggerated; he meant exactly what he said. His words now carried more weight with me than ever, for I had experienced the truth Jesus spoke when he told his followers, “Blessed areyou when people revile and persecuteyou, and say every evil thing againstyou falsely, for my sake. Rejoice, and be glad!Your reward is great in heaven, for that is how they persecuted the prophets who were beforeyou” (Mt. 5:11–12). After I got the gold from my trial, I felt blessed by what I had suffered! Half seriously, I suggested to my congregation that I wish God would let us edit Jesus’ exhortation to say, “Rejoice, and be glad,as soon as you can.” Likewise with James’ exhortation:“Count it all joyas soon as you can, my brothers, when you fall into various trials” (Jas. 1:2). It took me a while to get there, to feel that way from the heart, b