: Dr. Tomi White Bryan
: Emotional Intelligence 3.0 How to Stop Playing Small in a Really Big Universe
: Houndstooth Press
: 9781544529363
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: CHF 7.30
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: Lebensführung, Persönliche Entwicklung
: English
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You are a magical, creative ball of energy pretending you aren't. Every human being is born with unlimited creative energy-then life marks us up with red ink, teaching us who we're supposed to be instead of who we really are. Before we know it, our greatest birthright has been crossed out, leaving most of us believing, 'It's not safe to be who I am.' But living your life by that lie won't help you reach your dreams. Instead, it keeps you playing small in a really big universe. That stops today. Emotional Intelligence 3.0 offers a time-tested, proven method for reclaiming your unlimited power of creation. Learn step by step how to reawaken your magic, discover how far you've already come, and accelerate your journey with purpose and intention. Think your dreams are hard to achieve? Think again. Every door along your path is standing wide open. Walk through them all with Dr. Tomi White Bryan, starting right now!
1. 
These Bruises

Here, feelings are good. Here, feelings are powerful. They are indicators of what is stirring inside each of us. Every feeling you have is important, serves a purpose, and should be embraced and honored, especially if you want to maximize your potential. I know these might be radical ideas for some of you, mainly if you grew up in an environment as I did, one where there was no crying in baseball and, when you did cry, the refrain was, “Keep it up, and I will give you something to really cry about.”

As you might imagine, I have been on a long, tumultuous journey to understand my feelings so that they guide and inform who I am rather than derail me. And while my childhood was emotionally harsh, I can’t imagine making the journey to this moment in any way other than working through the emotional layers of the past fifty-plus years. It has been a grand adventure, and it’s not over; in some ways, the adventure is just beginning.

Like many of you, the unconscious emotional layers that limited my ability to tap into all my potential are rooted in my childhood experiences. I don’t blame my parents; my parents were good people who were not in emotional balance. I followed in their footsteps and became a good person who was not in emotional balance, either. We do what we know. In a way, I am grateful to them, as my uniqueness is directly attributable to those layers. As the lyrics to the Train song “Bruises” suggest, “these bruises make for better conversation.”1 Yes, my bruises do make for better conversation—and give me a unique flavor—as do yours.

It took, and continues to take, a substantial amount of work to discover the space of emotional balance, where my feelings are guides and not guards. That’s why I wrote this book—to help guide others down this path of Emotional Intelligence 3.0. Throughout my life, I have felt compelled to maximize my potential. I have come to see that every time I missed the mark, it was because I lived by an omnipresent and omnipotent unwritten rule I learned from life:It’s not safe to be who I am(so I must be something else, and the system will dictate what that is).

My emotional experiences continually reinforced this rule in a way that led me to think these two thoughts about myself:I am not lovable as I am andI am not powerful as I am. The more my emotional experiences reinforced these thoughts, the more I believed them, and the more I behaved in accordance with them. Ultimately, anI am not lovable as I am emotional imprint and anI am not powerful as I am emotional imprint formed out of the familiar ruts and grooves I created from bumping up against the rule’s limits. Encoded into each imprint was the meaning I had unknowingly assigned to the original emotional experience. It also included a habitual feeling and a rote action that honored the boundaries of the unwritten rule and