WHO AM I?

“Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable.

Be honest and transparent anyway.”

Mother Teresa

My obsession with boys started before I even realized it; I had crushes on boys as early as preschool. I used to chase them on the playground until the bell rang, but seemed I was never able to catch the ones I liked. What could possibly be engrained in a young girl’s head that would condition her to physicallyrun after boys at that age?

In middle and high school, I fell for therelationship concept instead of falling for the boy. Do you know what happens when you fall for something that doesn’t catch you?

You crash.

This mindset followed me through my twenties before the universe finally put a stop to it. A resulting heartbreak is the crash and burn of emotion best remedied by ice cream, our closest friends, buckets of tears and in most cases, complete removal of the individual that is a source of that pain from our life. The wreckage is then either let go of or stored away in a compartment of our brains only to be brought out by the next person that coincidentally does something that triggers us of that traumatic time from the past…

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My generation, “the millennials,” exists in a dating world the human race has never experienced before—a virtual one. Millions of potential bachelors and bachelorettes are available at our fingertips; yet somehow we are growing more disconnected than any generation before us. How could we have so much opportunity, yet be headed in the opposite direction of finding what we actually want? Has the integration of technology in our dating lives doomed us all in the arena of love forever? Are millennials so spoiled and lazy that we don’t know what it’s like to work for what we want? Let’s define a few things so we can start on the same page.

For starters—What is “dating?”

Adate, according to Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary, is defined as a “romantic social arrangement.” Seems pretty straight forward, but one word can be broken down a bit further—

What, exactly, is “romantic?”

The dictionary has some very interesting input her