OUR AGREEMENTS AND INTENTIONS
What if before we come to earth, we are a stream of consciousness, which we call the soul? And what if two souls happen to communicate with each other before either one physically comes to earth? One of the souls agrees to be the mother; the other soul agrees to be her child.
What if before we physically come into being, as mother and child, we agree to have certain experiences with each other on earth for the purposes of soul growth? Imagine when we make these agreements that we are looking down on earth as beings of pure energy with only positive thoughts and expectations.
And what if we agree to experience accepting, allowing, and loving each other no matter what circumstances may occur? Suppose at that time we clearly understand that if everything always goes smoothly, there are limited opportunities for soul growth. What if we acknowledge that challenges allow us to experience a full range of emotions—anger, fear, and grief, or peace, confidence, and joy? How do we know we are experiencing joy, if we have never experienced grief? How do we know that we did not create these challenges for our own soul’s development? Isn’t it preferable to consider it that way rather than seeing ourselves as powerless victims? No matter what challenges may occur, suppose our inner wisdom constantly tries to bring us back to a place of unconditional love for others and ourselves.
And what if, in addition to this joint agreement, mother and child have come here with their own set of individual intentions. These intentions could include the mother’s intentions for the child. The archetypal mother intends that her children will be happy, healthy, productive, and prosperous. If she knows for various reasons that she is unable to assist them in achieving this intention, could the children experience well-being without her direct influence? Our stories show that this can occur.
When babies are born, we know that they have their own set of feelings, thoughts, and desires. Genes carry personalities as well as physical attributes. Is it possible that the greatest common desires are for freedom, love, and joy? After birth many of us get caught up in our physical lives, learning about our new environment, developing survival skills, and relating to others. As we mature, we forget that we made an agreement to love each other no matter what happens, and get distracted with our own individual circumstances. With our self-focus comes a hierarchy of needs: safety, food, shelter, relationships, and finally self-actualization. When some of these needs are unmet, we start blaming each other instead of loving. This is as true for mothers as it is for children. However, suppose that the circumstances that we complain about were part of the pre-birth agreement—a contractual obligation to love each other no matter what. But the distractions of physical time and space have caused us to ignore or forget our agreement.
When we ignore our agreement, it can result in the kind of challenging relationship between mother and child that many of our stories demonstrate. For example, we may experience a difficult, rocky road together. We may be so troubled that we seek help, perhaps through counselling. Through a commitment to healing and transformation, we may start to reconnect with our deep, inner wisdom, and eventually, on some level, remember our agreement. If we continue this process on our journey, it will ultimately lead us to a place of understanding, growth, love, and grace. The fortunate few arrive as mother and child, and no ma
