: Christine Adams Ph.D., Ernest Frugé Ph.D.
: Why Children Misbehave and What To Do About It An Illustrated Guide for Parents
: BookBaby
: 9781543910643
: 1
: CHF 10.70
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: Familie
: English
: 188
: kein Kopierschutz
: PC/MAC/eReader/Tablet
: ePUB
This easy to read book is for parents who want to know how they can effectively correct their children's misbehavior and simultaneously help them learn the skills they need to develop self-control, positive self-esteem and respect for themselves and others. Having a reasonable understanding of why children do what they do and what disciplinary techniques work best is a key first step in successful parenting. The concisely written book has a visually appealing style that makes complicated ideas and methods easier to understand by using photos, graphics, bullet points, and many specific examples of parenting strategies using real life misbehaviors. Included are proven methods for dealing with a range of behavior problems commonly seen in toddlers, preschoolers, and elementary-age children:•Temper tantrums•Not sharing•Untruthfulness&b ll;Whining•Not asking for permission•Taking others' possessions•Bad language•Interrupting&bu l;Sassiness, arguing, sarcasm•Teasing, making fun of others, bragging•Stealing

Important Definitions

  1. Empathy: Being able to see and understand things from another person’s view and to imagine what it feels like to be in that person’s shoes. Empathy isnot sympathy or simple reassurance. Empathy does not necessarily mean agreeing with someone.
  2. Limit: A restriction on behavior. Examples of limits include:
    • Rules -Muddy shoes stay outside.
    • Boundaries around acceptable behavior -Whispering is acceptable in the library, loud talking is not.
    • Standards of conduct -Be polite to others.
  3. Consequence: A consequence is any result or effect that follows after or because of an action. A consequence can be either positive or negative. In parenting, consequences can be used to encourage desirable behavior or to discourage misbehavior. Consequences can happen naturally, accidentally or be delivered intentionally by a parent: Examples include:
    • Getting a failing grade because of not doing school work
    • Increasing skill level because of sufficient practice
    • Not getting dessert if dinner was not eaten
    • Cleaning up a mess or spill that one has made
    • Having a toy taken away after it has been thrown at someone
    • Being praised for doing a good deed

A consequence can also be something parentsdo not do, such as permit a child to spend the night with a friend. Parents can enforce limits by using consequences.

When parents establish reasonable rules, react to distress with empathy and firm limits, and back limits up with appropriate, consistent consequences then, over time, children develop clear expectations and learn that cooperation is more advantageous in the longrun.

  1. Limit-setting: Putting restrictions on behavior through the use of clear consequences. In limit-setting, consequences are what parents do or do not do in response to their child’s behavior. Examples include:
    • “You can run outside but you must walk inside the house. If you run in the house, you will not be allowed to play.”
    • “If you keep arguing with me, you will need to go to your room for fifteen minutes to calm down.”

Consistency in limit-setting is very important because children’s expectations are based on the pattern of limits set by parent