Pour yourself a drink, put on some lipstick, and pull yourself together.
—Elizabeth Taylor

What do you want? It took me many years to decide what I wanted. You must want something because you're about to start reading a book that outlines strategies to help you get the most out of your life. Maybe you were intrigued by the title, maybe you stumbled across this book in the self-improvement section of the store, or maybe someone gave it to you as a gift. However you came to hold this book in your hands, you know you're not settling into a hot steamy novel. So you must want something. We all do.

Do you want to start a business? Would you like to take your business to the next level? Perhaps you would like to attract more clients or add more programs? Are you looking for a better job or a promotion? Would you like to be a better leader in your organization? Are you struggling with work/ life balance challenges? Trying to pass a licensing exam? How about just hoping for a better relationship with your family and friends? Would you like to take control of your life? I can tell you this—if you can define what you want, you have a better chance of getting it.

I couldn't define what I wanted until I was thirty years old. Even then, the definition kept changing. After years of floundering, I finally got my act together and decided I wanted to be a doctor. Years later, my dream expanded and I set my sights on being an entrepreneur, a public speaker, and an author. After many failed relationships, I decided that I deserved the best relationship I could have with a true soul mate or no relationship at all. Today I have all that and more. It didn't come easy and it didn't come cheap—but it came.

My Uphill Years

Let me take you back to the early eighties. I was a college dropout and had been working as a secretary in New York City for more than ten years when, at age thirty, I decided to be a doctor. Can you i