: Barbara Summers, Carey Blakely
: Next!
: SelectBooks Inc
: 9781590792940
: 1
: CHF 9.40
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: Partnerschaft, Sexualität
: English
: 224
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Since launching her professional matchmaking business in 1986, Barbara Summers has engineered the match for hundreds of married couples. In Next! A Matchmaker's Guide to Finding Mr. Right, Ditching Mr. Wrong, and Everything In Between, Barbara extends her expertise to all women who want to find-and keep-the right guy. In her high-spirited guide to finding love, Barabara claims there are many 'someones' for everyone. In a world of rich possibilities no woman should ever buy into the mentality that she's unworthy of love, or feel she must settle for less than she wants, or stay in a relationship when the love is gone. Readers are invited to begin their search by creating a 'Dream Match List' of Must-Haves, Nice-to-Haves, and Deal Breakers. While exploring the do's and don'ts of dating, Barbara shares stories of her experiences with clients and her own (many) marriages. We learn the red flags of potential disasters and ways to recover from heart-wrenching breakups. And if we suddenly feel ready to make the leap into marriage, she recommends turning to the Marriage Practicality Checklist to help us decide if we've really found a good match. From what to expect on a first date to when to call it quits, Barbara delivers thoughtful instruction with humor and generosity. Most of all, she never wants a woman to be 'stuck.' This won't happen if we follow her advice: be fearless and know when to say 'Next!'

There’s Always Someone for Everyone

Not “The One,” but Someone

THERE’S SOMEONE OUT THERE FOR EVERYONE. I truly believe that.

You always have to feel in your heart that you will meet a person who is going to love you for who you are. Now I am certainly not saying there is onlyone someone out there for you. I don’t believe in the concept of “the one.” You’re probably thinking, well, evidently you don’t, Barbara, since you’ve had the first “one,” and then the next “one,” and the next quite a few times.

As my parade of husbands demonstrates, there are a lot of potential matches out there—at least for me. But of course I am not here to promote the concept of multiple marriages or to say that having one husband for life is not a wonderful path, because it is—as long as it’s built on mutual respect and devotion. I’m also not here to tell you that you need to get married. What I’m here to do is to help you find and/or keep love, whether it’s for the first time or the fifteenth. That’s what I do for a living. That’s my occupation and personal passion.

Sometimes people get caught up in the mentality that if they were in a long-term relationship that didn’t last—whether or not it was a marriage—they don’t want to look for love again because they feel that there is not going to be another who can fill that person’s shoes. I believe there are a lot of choices out there and that it’s up to us to find them.

Why bother with the not-always-easy search? It’s all about love.

Love Is All You Need

Love is a feeling and an exalted word. When a romantic partner tells you he loves you, it’s like a surround sound of bliss; you’re hearing the highest level of appreciation and fulfillment that you can get from another person. Being adored validates who you are and what you bring to the world, whether you’re twenty or ninety. To say that about yourself is to say I care for and accept who I am inside and out. Love is the top word; there’s nothing higher than this.

It’s important to give love back. It’s a give-and-take thing. And if you don’t have that balance of giving and receiving affection, it creates a lot of doubt within yourself. With no one to share an experience with or to appreciate