The Taboo Against Knowing Who You Sexually Are
The great denial of life is the denial of one’ssexual essence. Yet, sexual denial is prevalent in our every religious, political, national, racial, and even sexual ideologies and institutions. The heartbeat of life is being denied. Why? Well, haven’t you heard? To know who yousexually are is the great taboo. No one must know, it might expose things and reveal the truth. We may have to look at who we truly are.
Our sexuality is our identity and purpose in life. A male is a male for the exact purpose of dividing the one (securing life). A female is a female for the exact purpose of uniting the two (reproducing life). There isn’t any other option in life. We cannot “transcend” sexual purpose. Neither can either sexuality conceive of themselves without also recognizing the necessity of the other.
But why the great taboo against knowing who we sexually are? The only reason I can think of is that to know our sexuality places us right up against the wall of our creative accountability. We are creators, accountable for our every creation. There isn’t any way out. But, we must know, we can only create through the balanced interchange between ourselves and our sexual opposite. Creation constitutes that we fully and completely give orsurrender our lives to our sexual other. In the creative process, each man is called upon to give his life (security) over to woman, and does so in his unification with her. Likewise, each woman is called upon to give her life over to man, and she does so in her reproduction of him. This interplay occurs on all levels—spiritual, mental, and physical—so if through circumstance a couple is unable to conceive a child, the spirit of love may still be secured and reproduced. We all must go through the surrender of losing ourselves, from which we again find ourselves, and so on. Creative balance is the lifeline of every relationship and each of us, in being a part, are responsible.
Rather than face our own creative accountability (no excuses), many of us seek an escape from the reality of our creative sexuality. We actually seek some “non-sexual” reality which, of course, is an illusion, as with the “oneness” or “spiritual” havens that are devoid of the sexual demand and the sexual need of creation. The tragedy is not only that we begin to deny our own lives, but that we try our hardest to take everyone else down with us.
I will review four “great” escapes in the sexual arena. (In the next section, I will review the escape of ideology as a whole.) The four escapes in the sexual arena